Friday, January 6, 2017

Deuteronomy 24:5

“A newly married man must not be drafted into the army or be given any other official responsibilities. He must be free to spend one year at home, bringing happiness to the wife he has married.”
Deuteronomy 24:5 (NLT)

Prior to marrying in 2011, Aaron and I received lots of confirmation from the Lord that we were created to walk this earth together. So when we got married, we were arrogant in thinking that marriage would naturally be easy for us.

We were under the impression that the”honeymoon phase” would be the easiest, most magical time of our marriage. It turns out, that first year was the most difficult.  The both of us had quirks and emotional scars that went unnoticed until marriage.  Also, you don't begin to really get to know someone's ins and outs until you live with them and are forced to work together on day-to-day issues.

I wish we had studied Deuteronomy 24:5 because this verse imparts great advice. Moving into the same home with your husband is a huge eye opener and takes lots of adjusting on both parties. It’s so important to focus on your marriage and each other especially in that first year.  We took on a huge church project as soon as we married and that was a bad idea.  The project took so much from us when we should have been at home, focusing on learning marriage, gaining wisdom from the Lord, and practicing being the husband and wife God calls us to be. That’s why this verse instructs husbands to not go off to war or leave for extended work, but to stay home and learn about their wives and focus on making them happy.  Let's face it, if someone is going to have more particularities, it's probably going to be the wife so it's best the husband figures out what makes her happy sooner than later.

The Geneva Bible footnotes reasons, “that they might learn to know one another’s conditions, and so afterward live in godly peace.”



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